This year my intention is to be much more real this year than I was last. The quest to know thyself and reveal what is authentic beneath the layers of the lies that must be shed. As I delve into the work of revealing the narcissist to the world, I must also reveal the narcissist within and once its disguise is exposed I find more of who I really am.

I was walking out in the snow this afternoon with my dogs, on the trail to the river, which takes us through a beautiful pine forest. My walks are often where I get my greatest inspiration and also the deepest messages from spirit. The realization that came to me today was “the one who tells the truth has the greatest personal power.”

I work with many people who feel very deceived in their relationships with a partner who lies to them and misleads them on a regular basis. It is easy to feel disempowered by the lack of honesty in the relationship. The best course of action to reclaim your personal power is to be honest with yourself, regardless of what the other is doing. The truth always comes out in the end.

The person telling the truth is real. While those who avoid the truth are living a lie. Lies are based on fear and insecurity. They are based on a desire to manipulate and fear of accountability. I realized that I have gained the most in my life from finding my authenticity. The more real I become the better my life gets. Read the rest of this entry »