When the movie “The Secret” came out it spread like wildfire across the Internet and the cat was out of the bag about the Law of Attraction.  Ever since we’ve been seeing all kinds of expansion on the topic, such as “The Secret Behind The Secret” and “What The Secret Didn’t Tell You!”  And also there is the angle that “There Is No Secret!  We’ve Know This Stuff for Ages!”

“The Secret” was based on the “Law of Attraction” which launched into a new awareness once that movie was released.  The Law of Attraction is a universal law that says “You attract into your reality everything that shows up.”  This means what you think about comes about or what you focus on you create.  It also means how you feel on an emotional level will attract into your reality a similar vibration, meaning if you are feeling low and depressed you will attract depressive people and circumstances into your reality.

Although I do believe in the Law of Attraction I also know that this is only one of the many Universal laws that are playing out in our life.  The law of gravity says “what goes up must come down.”  The law of ‘Karma’ or ’cause and affect’ says “for every action there is a reaction” and then there is the law of “ACTION” which is “God helps those who help themselves.”

For those who are unaware of the role of universal laws in creating our present circumstances life seems to be just a series of events that happen to us based on the luck of the draw.  We attract a handsome man or a beautiful woman into our lives only to find out they have serious issues and we feel “unlucky in love” or “cursed!”  We are laid off our job and have no money and feel “down and out!”  Our health fails us and we feel picked on by God.  It is our natural inclination to want to blame outside circumstances for where we are.  “It’s the economy, luck, God has it out for me, I had a bad childhood, etc.”  For some it is a stretch to see how we might have a whole lot more power in our lives than we previously believed we did.  The Law of Attraction tells us we can change our circumstances by changing how we participate in life energetically.  I have found this to be true in my own life.  I’ve gone from living what felt like a cursed life to living a blessed life and the only thing that really changed was me.  I changed who I brought to the game.  I changed how I engaged in life and how I interacted with people.  I changed my thoughts and beliefs about who I am and how I influence what shows up in my reality.

In creating a new reality for myself I had to get away from blaming myself for the reality I didn’t want and more into really befriending myself.  It’s hard to be a Co-creator with God and the Universe if we are always putting ourselves down or buying into some idea that we are “less than.”  One of the ideas behind the Law of Attraction is that it is done unto us as we believe.  So if we believe we are unworthy and undeserving we will attract circumstances into our lives that validate our belief.

The Law of Attraction information that is circulating out there in Cyberspace and bookland focus’s mostly on changing our thoughts and beliefs.  Some schools of thought bring the emotional element to the table.  I have found that it’s all important.  We must be mindful of our thoughts on a daily basis and we must be willing to look at our beliefs very carefully. Yet it is our unconscious that is truly the attractive force in our lives.  It is often what lies beneath the surface of our conscious awareness that is the true attractive force in our lives.  We attract our mates unconsciously.  We attract disease, our financial reality, our bodies, and our social circle through our unconscious programming.  So it isn’t a matter of just repeating affirmations like “I am Worthy!  I am Worthy, I am Worthy!”  You can repeat those words a hundred times and if there is some program running on a deep unconscious level it will always override the rote affirmations.  It isn’t enough just to say it!  You must think it!  Feel it!  Believe it!  You must be willing to examine what part of you doesn’t feel worthy and why?  You must befriend that part of you and have compassion for it.  You can also look for the parts of you that do believe you are worthy and let them be in charge.

I think a common mistake we make is to believe that the small, frightened inner child who was psychically beaten down early in life is who we are.  It isn’t who we are, it is just a very loud part of us.  That part is loud because it is screaming for our attention.  It wants to be seen and heard!  It wants to be brought out into the light, nurtured, loved, accepted and appreciated!  When working with my clients I find it helpful to ask them to identify different aspects of their personality and name them, such as the “inner child” the “warrior” the “sage” and the “Mother” or “Father.”  When we can identify these different aspects we can check in with ourselves and see who is running the show.  We may have an opportunity to further ourselves by speaking in front of a group of people but the little child within says “NO! I won’t do it!  People will laugh at me!  I will make a fool of myself!  I have nothing of value to say!” But if you recognize that this is just a frightened aspect of yourself you can call upon the other aspects to support the whole you.  The Mother could provide the nurturing, loving energy that says “I know it is scary but you are very capable and have great value to share with others.”  The Warrior could say.  “We are going to walk out on that stage with confidence and slay our dragons.  We aren’t going to let them stop us!  Don’t worry little one, I won’t let anything happen to us.”

When we stop identifying with what we perceive to be the negative aspects of ourselves we can live in a much more positive light.  Everyone gets frightened!  It is what we do with our fear that is important.  We can let it control us and run our world, or we can walk through it, one step at a time!

What lies in our unconscious is those aspects of ourselves that we have disowned, discarded or are hiding from.  It may be those parts of ourselves that we deemed unacceptable or unlovable in some way.  For me it was the chubby little fifth grader with glasses and braces.  She was the ugly duckling that nobody liked.  So I split off from her, buried her in the deep recesses of my psyche and grew into the beautiful swan.  But she was constantly there reminding me that I wasn’t really a beautiful swan, I was an ugly duckling.  But I couldn’t let people know the truth.  Because nobody really liked the ugly duckling.  She was the rejected one.  She was the one nobody loved.  I really didn’t find myself until I brought that little one out from the Shadows (see my CD “From The Shadows”) and into the light!  I rescued her from the darkness and loved her myself!  I promised to never abandon her again and a strange thing happened.  The ugly duckling lost its power in my life.  I realized she was never really ugly.  It was a perception!  A belief!  It was something I felt deep down inside that ruled so much of my reality.  Once I befriended the ugly duckling I integrated this aspect of myself and became more whole and authentic.

From my own experiences I came to believe that before we can truly attract different circumstances in our lives we have to be willing to take that journey within to truly discover who we are, what we want and what is preventing us from getting there.  The inner journey is really my passion!  I consider myself to be a fearless explorer of the inner realm of the psyche, not only for myself but for others.  Because I know what is possible once we search the darkness and find all those parts of ourselves we have been hiding from.  We come back to life.  We are like sleeping beauty being awakened.  We fall in love with ourselves and become real! And once we do this there is no stopping us.  Anything is possible!  We finally realize that we are the one we have been searching for all our lives.

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